Falling in love is easy, staying in love is not
I have (only) been together with my boyfriend for five years. My parents, almost 25. My grandparents, more than 57.
Compared to my parents' and my grandparents', the length of my relationship is still VERY short. But in the last five years, I have been bored many times. I have had interests in other men several times, though I did not act on it. I have questioned whether I want to marry him. Doubts, doubts, doubts.
Every time I had a doubt, I tried to think clearly and assessed what I actually want in a relationship, and he ticks all the (necessary) boxes. He is my other half, he thinks and sees things I don't. He has been my steadfast companion in the last five years, never once doubting my loving him. And so did I; I have never been insecure (well, probably once and only a little) because I know he loves me so. He is kind, even though he's the most annoying person that I know. He is outspoken, I am very much comfortable introducing him to my friends and family. And most importantly, we have really clear communication. Every thought, every feeling, every annoyance is conveyed. Thus, our relationship has been really smooth, despite the very rare, occasional fights. It's been fun. It's been constructive. It's been everything I could have ever asked out of a relationship.
And for my parents and grandparents, I know there must have been days that they reflected back, thinking is it worth it? Should we move on together or should we go our separate ways? But they stick together despite everything, despite they have turned into another person, acquired traits that probably the other person doesn't quite approve. To stick together despite the decades they have been through takes a lot of love and common sense.
Relationships are not only fun and games. At one point, the love will be worn out. It won't be passion or excitement anymore. It will be a calm, sometimes mundane relationship. It's entirely up to you on what kind of relationship it will be. It still can be exciting and fun, but it will take effort. If you are sure they're the one, with your heart and with your mind, the effort is definitely worth it.
Compared to my parents' and my grandparents', the length of my relationship is still VERY short. But in the last five years, I have been bored many times. I have had interests in other men several times, though I did not act on it. I have questioned whether I want to marry him. Doubts, doubts, doubts.
Every time I had a doubt, I tried to think clearly and assessed what I actually want in a relationship, and he ticks all the (necessary) boxes. He is my other half, he thinks and sees things I don't. He has been my steadfast companion in the last five years, never once doubting my loving him. And so did I; I have never been insecure (well, probably once and only a little) because I know he loves me so. He is kind, even though he's the most annoying person that I know. He is outspoken, I am very much comfortable introducing him to my friends and family. And most importantly, we have really clear communication. Every thought, every feeling, every annoyance is conveyed. Thus, our relationship has been really smooth, despite the very rare, occasional fights. It's been fun. It's been constructive. It's been everything I could have ever asked out of a relationship.
And for my parents and grandparents, I know there must have been days that they reflected back, thinking is it worth it? Should we move on together or should we go our separate ways? But they stick together despite everything, despite they have turned into another person, acquired traits that probably the other person doesn't quite approve. To stick together despite the decades they have been through takes a lot of love and common sense.
Relationships are not only fun and games. At one point, the love will be worn out. It won't be passion or excitement anymore. It will be a calm, sometimes mundane relationship. It's entirely up to you on what kind of relationship it will be. It still can be exciting and fun, but it will take effort. If you are sure they're the one, with your heart and with your mind, the effort is definitely worth it.
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